When it comes to attracting women, holding strong eye contact is a superpower.
Research has shown that prolonged eye-contact can induce feelings of passion and even love.
Famed evolutionary psychologist David Buss writes, “In one study, forty-eight women and men came to a lab and were asked to stare into each other’s eyes while talking. The effect of mutual gaze proved powerful. Many reported that deep eye contact with an opposite-sex stranger created feelings of intense love.
Another study had strangers first reveal intimate details of their lives to each other for half an hour, and then asked them to stare into each other’s eyes for four minutes— without breaking eye contact or making any conversation. Participants again reported deep attraction to their study partners. Two of these total strangers even ended up getting married!” (Why Women Have Sex)
Once I learned about the power of eye contact, I began experimenting with it in my own life. The results were unbelievable. Women started to respond to my eye-contact with comments like,
“Wow, I haven’t felt butterflies like that in years.”
“You and I shouldn’t be left in a room together.”
“You’re making me nervous in the best possible way.”
I wasn’t doing anything magical, I was simply making strong, intentful eye-contact. You can get women to respond to you just as sexually by making small changes to the way you look women in the eyes.
There are two key elements to powerful eye-contact: duration and intensity.
If you don’t hold eye-contact long enough, you will appear nervous, and therefore, unattractive. If, on the other hand, you hold eye-contact for too long, you will be unnervingly intense.
A great rule of thumb to make your eye-contact strong – but not creepy – is to hold eye contact until the girl looks away.
When she looks away, you can look away for a moment, too. By holding eye-contact slightly longer than she does, you’re ensuring that your eye contact will be strong, but not too strong.
The eyes act as a conduit for emotions. If you see fear in someone’s eyes, you will feel fear. If you see confidence in someone’s eyes, you will feel confidence. And most importantly, if you see desire in someone’s eyes, you will feel desire.
Eye-contact is only as powerful as the intention behind it. When I’m meeting an attractive woman’s gaze, there is a clear sexual intent in my eyes – I feel it, she feels it. It might sounds strange, but I’m basically thinking, “I want you.” as I hold eye-contact. This feeling of desire transfers from me to her.
This technique is so powerful because it’s subtle. You’re not saying that you like the girl, you’re making her feel it on a primal, subconscious level. Strong eye contact is an aphrodisiac, it’s probably the one adjustment you can make to your game that will have the biggest impact (in terms of creating attraction).
Implementing This In Your Life
Okay, we’ve explained why eye contact is so important and what makes eye contact strong or weak. But how do you actually bring this from the theoretical into your actual life?
I made holding strong eye contact a habit by watching a strange video every single day.
Here’s the video:
Yup, it’s a girl staring at a camera for several minutes straight.
It’s weird, I know, but watching this video is powerful because your brain has no way to know that you’re just watching a video.
As far as your brain is concerned, you’re holding eye contact with a real woman in real time.
If you get comfortable holding strong, intentful eye contact with the video, you’ll be much more comfortable doing the same thing in real life.
Of course, watching a video like this is mental masturbation if you’re not going out and approaching women. Think of eye contact practice videos like a workout supplement – they can help improve your progress, but they’re definitely not a replacement for hard work.
Wrapping Up How To Attract Women With Eye Contact
Eye contact is easy to overlook because it’s so basic – there’s nothing new or flashy about learning how to make strong eye contact with a girl.
Yet, eye contact is incredibly powerful, it can show confidence (or lack thereof) and it can even create sexual attraction on its own.
It’s worth spending some time to master holding strong eye contact because, if you do, women will respond to you in ways most guys can’t imagine.